Getting current information
about what has been going on at home has become difficult of late.
My mother is now being very
careful with what she says to me on the telephone. I live in Singapore but all
my family live back in Australia. I normally ring my mother once a week and on
a Tuesday night. If for some reason I don't ring her then she worries. When I
tell her that her worrying causes me worry then she worries even more.
It is a no win
situation.
It is a bit of a worry.
I rang home on
Sunday this week because I actually wanted to speak to my Dad. I wanted to ask
him a question about the Ghurka soldiers of Nepal. My Dad was a career army
officer for most of his adult life and he knew and worked with some of the
Ghurka people. I will not disclose the question - just to annoy you.
When I rang home however it
was my Mum who answered the phone.
"Hi Mum.
Howzitgoin?" I asked.
"Oh hello dear is
that you Peter?"
"Yes it is"
My Mum is sometimes unsure
whether it is me or my younger brother Richard ringing her. We apparently both
sound quite similar on the phone and also my Mum is getting a little deaf.
"It's not Tuesday
Peter"
"No I know it's not
Mum. I am ringing to talk to Dad"
"That’s nice dear but
he's just out walking the dog and he won't be long."
"No worries Mum - so
what's going on and how are you?"
I enquired.
"I am fine thanks
dear. We had a lovely time up at your sister Jane’s house this afternoon and
she made a banana and walnut cake for your father. I hope that you and your
brother had a nice time in Nepal"
"Nice one Mum. We had
a wonderful time thanks. Richard is still there. What have you been up to
then?"
There was a moment’s
hesitation from my mother before she said:
"You are not going to
write about this are you Peter?"
My mum asks this of me quite
often now. She has told me more than once that she doesn't like me
'telling the world' - as she describes my writing - about things that she
thinks are a bit personal. She has made mention that such things have included
me writing about my niece Georgina's now finished relationship with the
reformed junior gangster Rory and the fact that I have made the comment that my
brother Richard has a very big penis.
I have reassured her on many
occasions that Georgie likes being written about and she often rings me and
begs me to write more about her. She did so recently in fact. I have also told
my mum that my brother Richard is equally very pleased for me to write that he
is very well endowed.
By the way I have never
actually written specifically about my brother's large dick before - I merely
mentioned it in passing on one occasion.
My mum has also told me that
she does not think that I should use so many swear words in my writing and I
have told her that I thought that this was a bit rich coming from her. I have
heard my mum swear many times on the golf course.
We all have.
I have heard her say
'fuck" very loudly and very often when she has sliced a ball off the tee
and when she has missed a very short putt.
The phrases 'Keeping Mum' and
'Mum's the Word' mean to keep quiet or to say nothing. The English came up with
them. The terms have been around for quite a few centuries and are thought to
have originated from the word "mummer'. A 'mummer' was a mime actor from
pre-Shakespearean times.
British propaganda posters
were produced during World War Two that said "Be like Dad: keep Mum"
- warning the populace that German spies may be lurking in their communities.
The British also put up posters that said, "Loose lips sink ships" -
which meant much the same thing.
I have noticed that in
recent months my mum is not telling me all the news that she used to - and when
she does start to relate a little family or neighborhood gossip she will very
often pause before she reaches the juicy bits - and she will say – as she said
today:
"You are not going to
write about this are you Peter?"
I have had to reassure her
that I won't write about such things if she doesn't want me to but she is
getting a bit repetitive and annoying in this request. Mind you, some of the
stuff that she does tell me is worth writing about.
She is a bit of a gossip is
my mum.
I told my Mum that it was
somewhat of a shock for me to return to Singapore as I have been away from the
Island for over a fortnight working in India and then not working in Nepal
where I met up with my brother Richard.
Yes the one with the big
dick.
Sorry Mum.
Most people will know that a
fortnight is a unit of time that equates to fourteen days. Fewer people will
know that the origins of the word are Old English – or Ye Olde English - that
actually means fourteen nights.
I am one such person – and
now so are you.
This word is ‘feorwetyne’ –
which looks Welsh but it is not. Unsurprisingly the automatic spellcheck
function on my computer utterly rejects the word ‘feorwetyne’ however it does
not reject words from the same era such as ‘hither’ or ‘thee’ or ‘betwixt’. I
particularly like the word ‘betwixt’ and will endeavour to use it in a
conversation tomorrow. Interestingly too the automatic spellcheck function on
my computer does not reject the words ‘fuck’ or ‘fucker’.
Life throws up many
mysterious things and the working of the automatic spellcheck function on my
computer is one such thing.
I told my Mum that the not
working in Nepal with my brother was excellent and that I have returned to the
Island feeling relatively chilled and relaxed.
I told her that I am
temporarily at peace with myself.
She asked me if we were in
Nepal doing our charity stuff building schools and I told her that we were. When
I say it was not work it is work but it is not of the paid kind. It is
volunteering. She then asked me if it was just Richard and I that went to Nepal
this time and I informed her that it was just the two of us.
Mum knows that I go to Nepal
often and that we now run a little charity building schools and installing
solar power and supporting education in remote and spectacularly beautiful communities
in the Himalaya. She is aware that my friend Jess and I started the charity and
that we organize groups of people to go over and help out on a regular basis.
It is mostly Jess that does this actually – she is much better than me at
organizing and I just go.
It is nice to get as many
people as we can involved in our projects although few people are repeat
visitors. I told my Mum most of the people who have been to our school projects
from Singapore have very good hearts and they are touched by the plight of the
children and the lack of educational opportunity. How could they not be? They help
out our Foundation with fund raising - however there are some who have spent
more time shopping than doing charity work at our schools.
I informed Mum that Singapore
is full of strange expatriate women who are attracted to the concept of helping
out in Nepal but in reality they are of little use. These are the ones who
spend much of their time shopping. I told my mother that such individuals
really believe that by them buying massive amounts of trinkets from places like
Mahaguthi – whose motto is ‘Craft with a Conscience’ – and drinking free trade
coffee - they are doing their bit. I told Mum that they waltz around Kathmandu
wearing designer colored face-masks so they don’t breath in the dust. They also embarrassingly
and constantly spray their hands with disinfectant that they keep in their
handbags as they loudly proclaim how dirty things are.
Accompanying such people in
the visitor groups make me cringe.
I told Mum that these women then
go back to Singapore with all the trinkets that they have bought. They proudly
display framed pictures of themselves playing with the cute little Nepalese
children. They drink champagne and cocktails in ridiculously pretentious places
- and they tell each other how nice they all are. I told my Mum that the cost
of each bottle of champagne that they drink - like water - would pay for the
education of a Nepalese child for a year.
That makes me sick.
These women rarely return to
Nepal though after their first trip. They prefer resorts in Bali or Phuket. They
are typically vegetarians or vegans and are generally divorced and confused and
unhappy. They are shallow and empty and they have insurmountable problems with
alcohol and relationships and self esteem.
I informed Mum that these
women are sad and pitiful cases but they are mostly harmless and that thank
goodness none of them came to Nepal on this visit with my brother and I.
That would have ruined the
experience.
I told Mum that when I
arrived home last week and my taxi pulled up at my condominium complex - the
two men who are both named Raj – and who are the delightful and over-doting
Indian Security Guards of the building in which I reside -were there to greet
me. Before the taxi had even stopped there was a Raj on either side of the
vehicle.
I told Mum that they
simultaneously opened both doors.
I informed my mother that had
a temporary quandary through which door to alight - as I did not wish to offend
either Raj. Instinct however drew me to the curbside door - which was to my
left – the opposite of what it would be in America.
I generally follow my
instincts without too much fall-out.
Before I had straightened
both Raj snapped to immediate, rigid and imposing salutes and I quickly barked
an:
“At ease fellows”
I followed this up quickly
with a more gentle:
“Owzitgoin guys?”
My
Mother knows all about the two Raj and that the two Indian guards refuse to
stop saluting me whenever they see me.
She
knows too that although it still disturbs me a bit, I have now just begrudgingly
accepted it.
“Gidday Mr. Peter sir” one of the Raj beamed.
“Gidday Mr. Peter sir we
are be welcoming you back from your most tiring of travelings” the other added.
He was also grinning.
The Raj’s both now say “Gidday”
to me.
I am teaching them
Australian.
I explained to my mother that
when the taxi driver popped the boot of the car one of the Raj swooped and
removed my bags. While I was wrestling to take it away from him the Manager of
my complex Mr. Tan stepped out from behind a column. He often appears from
shadows or as if from nowhere. He moves very quietly too – like a phantom – and
his footsteps don’t make any noise.
It is frequently
disconcerting and occasionally a little creepy.
“Good evening Mr. Peter
and welcome back”
“Good evening Mr. Tan and
thank you”
I told Mum that I managed to
get a hold of both of my small bags as the Raj who had them released his grip
to snap to attention again at the appearance of Mr. Tan.
I told Mum that I had to “At
ease fellows” them again to get them to stop.
The Raj’s only salute Mr. Tan
and I.
I don’t know why.
“I have something for all of you” I declared to the Raj’s and Mr. Tan.
I opened the larger of my two
bags to reveal 10 gorgeous southern Indian mangoes. I bring back as many as I
can carry when they are in season - for they are the best mangoes in the world.
This lot I picked up from Bombay – or Mumbai as it is now known – on the way
home from Nepal.
I informed Mum that at that
moment the boom gates to the complex opened and a Dane roared up on a Harley
Davidson and pulled up next to where the Raj and Raj, Mr. Tan and I were
standing. As the rider cut the engine I asked:
“Are you Jens or Dag?”
My mum knows that Jens is my
somewhat unpredictable and most definitely deranged Danish neighbour and Dag is
his visiting identical twin brother who appears to be equally mad.
He is visiting from
Copenhagen.
“I am Jens,” replied the Dane. He said this as he
released then shook his wild mane of hair from the ridiculous Viking motorcycle
helmet that he wears – it has horns – and he grinned manically at me.
“You are going som ver
Skeepy mudderfukker?” he
asked.
“No I have just returned
from India and Nepal Jens. Is your over-fed twin psychotic brother Dag still
staying with you?”
“Da da” he replied.
“Da” is Danish of sorts for
yes. I don’t know why Jens chooses to say it twice but he does it often.
It could be a part of his madness or it could just be a Danish thing.
I do not know enough Danes to
determine this.
My Mum knows that Jens calls
me ‘skippy’ – or “skeepy” as it is in his guttural Danish accent - as he thinks
it is funny. ‘Skippy’ is the name of a bush kangaroo. It was once a television
show made in the 1960’s about the adventures of a kangaroo. The name of the
show was Skippy for she was the main character and star. He was portrayed as
being an uber intelligent beast that was the best mate of a boy called Sonny.
Sonny was the son of a Park Ranger. Skippy could understand everything that
Sonny said and they had many adventures where Skippy was inevitably a hero. The
series was shown all around the world. It was popular in Denmark apparently.
It was huge.
I don’t mind what Jens calls
me. I prefer Peter – because it is my name - however I don’t really care what
anyone calls me actually.
I don’t give a fuck.
I informed my mother that Mr.
Tan slunk back a bit into the shadows when Jens appeared. She knows from our
previous conversations that Mr. Tan is quite understandably a bit fearful of
the Dane. Mr. Tan is a very slight and passive Singaporean chap and Jens is a
crazed and hulking monster.
“Dag ees seek” Jens added.
“Dag
is sick” is the English
translation
One hand was scratching at
his wild and disheveled beard when he said this and the other was scratching
his crotch. Jens is a most disgusting individual and I could have sworn that I
saw living things moving around in his beard. Perhaps ticks, mites or gnats –
or even mosquitoes.
I informed my Mum that mosquitoes
are illegal here in Singapore. I told her that the Government has a very large
mosquito department whose sole mission is the extermination of the insects.
Mosquitoes have killed hundreds of thousands of people in the tropics from
diseases such as malaria and dengue fever and like many things in this country,
the Singaporean government exercise a zero tolerance approach.
“Dag is sick Jens? Is that
what you are trying to say?”
“Da da” Jens replied.
“He haas a very beeg
hangoover” he then
roared.
The roaring caused the two
Raj to take a step closer and I held up a hand to reassure them that all was
OK. The two Raj are very protective of me and they have seen first hand Jens
madness. He generally roars “modderfokkers” at the Guards as he comes
and goes from the complex but I told them a while back not to take it
personally.
I told them that Jens yells “modderfokker”
at everybody.
I told my Mum that Jens
stopped his roaring as soon as the Raj’s stepped in and he immediately became a
bit more timid. Raj and Raj are very big boys and Jens is undeniably crazy - but
he is not stupid.
I explained to Mum that there
was Mr. Tan who is afraid of Jens and the Dane who is scared of Raj and Raj –
and it was a small circle of fear that had surrounded me. For some perverse
reason that I could not really elucidate to my mother, I momentarily enjoyed
the tension of the moment.
“Yes be careful my fat
Danish fucker friend” I
warned Jens.
“Both Raj and Raj are fearsome
Punjabi warriors who have killed many Pakistanis with their bare hands and I
have a secret Australian code word that once uttered will compel them to attack
and destroy you”
Raj and Raj swelled a little
in size at this comment and the Dane looked somewhat sheepish. He was quietly
muttering incomprehensible Danish guttural noises into his beard.
I informed my Mum that to the
best of my knowledge neither Raj has killed anyone nor had I programmed them
with an attack and kill command - but Jens did not know that.
“I have mangoes for you
all – including you fat Danish fucker,” I announced – deciding to break the slight tension that had
emerged.
I than gave two mangoes each
to the Raj’s, Mr. Tan and to Jens.
I told Mum that tears welled
up in both of the Raj eyes and Mr. Tan’s bony little arms emerged from the
shadows to receive his. I could see a part of his face and he looked a bit
stunned.
He often does.
Jens looked bemused holding a
gorgeous mango in each of his mitts and I knew that it would take a while for
him work out that what they were and whether he could ride his Harley holding
the fruits.
I let my Mum know that I have
decided that unconditional kindness and friendly banter is the best way to deal
with the insane Dane Jens – and also with his seemingly equally mad brother Dag
– for I suspect that they have not been recipients of much kindness in their
lives.
I could well be wrong though
and their apparent lunacy could again simply be just a Danish thing.
“Dees ars coocoonots
Skeepy?”
“They are wicked mangoes
from India you dumb Danish dude – give one to your brother and eat one
yourself”
I told Mum that I then bid
them all a swift goodnight - announcing that I was a bit tired - and I wanted
go upstairs and unpack and eat and write all of this down. I also took
advantage of the fact that neither Raj could salute with a ripe mango in each
of their hands – nor could Mr. Tan shake my hand with his damp and limp little
grip.
I informed my Mum that I could
see confusion still in Jens expression and the agony in the facial expressions
of both Raj’s at their inability to salute. Mr. Tan remained just looking
stunned.
I smiled wryly to myself and
then I turned and wheeled away.
I kept two mangoes for
myself.
I will eat both for my
breakfast in the morning.
“That’s
nice dear” Mum said.
Once I promised my mum again that
I wouldn't write about anything that she had to share with me she filled me in
about a few things that had transpired - such as her recent victory in a
tournament at her golf club and a new partner she has in her weekly Bridge
games.
Boring shit.
Then my Dad arrived home from
walking the dog and she put him on the phone and I chatted away to him for a
while and I asked him the question about the Ghurka - which I shall not reveal
here. It was very revealing though. I talked to Dad for a little while about
the football and the family and where I was traveling to next for work before
he passed the phone back to my mum to say goodbye.
Mum asked me if I was going
to ring again on Tuesday and I reassured her that I would.
I know that she
would worry otherwise.
That was one hell of a phone convo, Peter. Thanks for telling us all about it :).
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It certainly was a hell of a phone conversation,and quite entertaining. Thanks for letting me in on it. AtoZer http://www.writer-way.blogspot.com
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